Hold on to your Dreams....

Ever since we are born, we become our parents dream and they set some rules and boundaries for us to shape and help us grow into a better person, which allows us to either fulfil their dream or our dream. Thankfully I have become one of those people I would like myself to be.

 

Even when my marriage broke down 95% of people disappeared from my life. It would be wrong if I say it didn't hurt me, but I was already broken with my marriage so it didn't gave me much of a shock. Then there were those people who started attracting to me mostly because I was in same situation like them, being a divorcee. Some became really good friends and some just stayed for awhile and then disappeared. Even in the church I used to go, I became a Hot Topic after my divorce, people wanted to interact either to gossip or for a marriage proposal with someone with no visa, once I made it clear that I was not interested than all the people disappeared.

 

My life has always been like a up down hill road, one comes and one is ready to leave. But ironically it never happened with a partner, I wish it did, lol.. ;) I always dreamed of a good looking guy with killing looks coming my way, but it never even happened. I am no Miss Universe so I guess I over expected from my dream man as well, but I must say I did got many proposals from which mostly were due to Residency purpose. As I am citizen and many Indian guys are here on either no visa or struggling to extend there visa, they will truly even marry a 60 year old, so I am certainly a better option. I have spoken to a guy once who was only interested in going to a lawyer to discuss his residency after getting married to me, and didn't even asked me one question about myself, and that was it, I said NO. I still believe that one day my prince charming will come and fit in my life like a puzzle does, that day all the wrongs will become right and all the sadness will turn into happiness.

 

I have passed 30 years in struggling but still believing that good thing happens to good people, I do loose my hope every now and then, but always happy with whatever decisions I make. But on those dark days when I am super low and see no light at the end of the tunnel, I have wonderful friends/family + super gorgeous daughter who makes me see my dreams again.

 

Help ... Does it even exits???

Before becoming a mother my life was quite different and never had to think about having someone's responsibility or how to get through one day at time. Life was about planning weeks and months in advance. But now its the other way around, not only I have two little eyes looking upon me for everything also I am only worried about one day at a time that is today.

When i think about help than things like cleaning, washing, getting a job comes to my mind, life is changed now and so has its meaning. I am an Offspring lover (for those who don't know its a television soap i love to watch), when i see Neena struggling alone with stuff being a single mother but still doing a great job as being a Mum. Other than this all being a scripted series i still love watching it. Certain things i can relate to my life but others are too good to be true. Life give you several ups and downs and all you need to do is take it as it comes. Sometimes i feel like do we even have a choice? and the truth is NO. We dont have a choice, as we cant go and chance the present or future.

I have been raising my little one by myself since she was 2 months old. My family has been there emotionally but other than that no one ever helped and the harsh truth is no one even offered. I cant totally blame them as I was very much into being an Independent single mum, but that doesn't mean i wouldn't have loved some help. Same goes with the friends, they were there and still are but mostly are even scared to offer some help.

If i move to job hunting its another heartbroken game for me. From last one month i have received not even one single call but have received many emails about my application being unsuccessful. I even asked my friends who are at good positions in good companies, but i wasn't surprised when they couldn't help, as that is how my life has been so far. But never say never, i still have hope and will figure out something and eventually will have a job that i deserve.


Here is a thumbs up to all the wonderful single mums looking for work. Keep on trying, good things will come your way eventually. The road is hard and very disheartening but we have to keep on walking on it because of our little ones. Good luck :)

Motherhood for a Single Parent

When anyone starts to plan a baby, all the thoughts and expectation are usually positive. Being a mum is a miracle and not everyone can enjoy this wonderful thing, but it also come with some drawbacks. Just like everyone when I was expecting, I had all this thoughts about how will i raise my little one and what all i will do for her, but somehow reality is totally different. I received many messages about how motherhood is different if you are a single parent and also regarding how I cope with day to day struggles. And if you are someone like me who have no family/relatives/friends to help around, than a bit salute to you my friend, its hard very hard and not everyone can get it plus not every can do it. So this blog is dedicated to those mums asking me questions regarding what i do to go through a normal busy day. 

First of all everyday is different, i cannot sum-up a formula which will work everyday to not loose your sanity. I am not super-woman, even i loose it sometimes, but then i just remind myself that regardless how crap i am feeling, this little person needs me and only got me for everything, and somehow this does help me bring back a smile on my face. Some mums are blessed with calm kids, I am not one of them, my little bundle of joy is actually a bundle of too much energy. Regardless how busy i make her, she still find ways to make me tired. By end of the day i am tired and longing for a quite time for myself. One more thing that i have seen has worked so far is by only worrying about present. This not only helps you to relax but also takes pressure out to make things happen in advance.

Never compare your kid, every child is different regardless of age and height. Never put that pressure in your head about how your kid is performing at school, as long as the child is doing his/her best in studies and not hitting or bullying someone. 

Teach your child to share and be nice to others, it will take time and some kids will understand in one go and others will take you to repeat quite a few times before they will start doing it. Repeat yourself again and again in front of them, do not keep a count of how many times you have done that already, lol. Some mums will tel you about how they told their kid once and ever since then they are behaving great, ignore them, every child is different. Don't focus on time out, instead focus on the positive behavior and it will help you to be positive.

Last but not the least, when you child is having a tantrum or just being a tough-child, remind yourself your age. This will not only remind you that how big age difference you have with your child but also give you few seconds to calm down and trust me you will act way better to your child's behavior after this. If its normal for you to loose yourself even being in your 30's than its quite normal for a child with age 10 times less than you to loose it as well. Your little one is still learning to cope with the everyday situations and as well as to control his/her emotions, you are their primary source and teacher.

To sum up, not everything will work fantastic everyday, Its normal to have few tantrums and upset moments during the day, its life. When its night and your little one is asleep plus you get your suite time, in 5 minutes you will miss that little person running around you. Every night when my daughter falls asleep, I thank God for another wonderful day and to help me cope with it.

Love them, hug them, always remember there are some who cant have them and you are lucky to be blessed with one.

Have a wonderful day with your bub.. You are doing the best for your bub.

Will look forward to your comments and messages...

:)

Marriage Money Life Friendship

Once upon a time marriage was an agreement between two people written with love and taken oath in front of God to celebrate that they will live together for rest of their life. With the time passing by and this eager of every human being to be successful and have more in life has changed the value of marriage. Since childhood I had this image in my heart that two people meet fall in love and get to live together and we call it marriage. But when it came to my marriage I was taking in lots of new information like marriage is more like an agreement to make sure you are secured in each and every way (financially/security) for rest of the life, in marriage a guy is always right (according to my x-inlaws, that's why they are X)

Even though my marriage didn't last long but it does gave me lots of information about living with a Guy, which is nothing like how i imagined it to be, plus money matters. Yes, it does. I know many wouldn't like my view on this particular thought, but that is what I have experienced. I am not just talking about my relation, but also including many different couples whom I have closely noticed. Lets talk about this deeply.

First I would like to talk about what goes through the guys mind, if the girl is educated good, but if girl is educated plus from a good background (financially) then its a Yes ofcourse. I have seen guys who used to be a lover to every second girl, to change into a homely guy just after marriage. Yes there are some rare cases where people change, but when person change due to love than you can see the difference in their behavior for everyone not just one person, as person who change inside will also change outside. I just cant believe that a person can be only respectful to one and not for rest of the world. What is different if a girl parents has money? she just becomes more valuable? Some of these married guys just make me feel sorry for the girl, as all they talk about is money, Has money taken over Love? All that matters is Materialistic life? 

Moreover they only want to be involved with people with contacts and money, they got all the time for those people, but if someone who unfortunately no longer has anything to offer them, then they are too busy. I didnt learned my lesson in a day,  it took me awhile to see the difference. Means if i had money and contacts than they would come to me as well, but I am glad that I dont and so should all of you if you have ever felt like that. If someone choose  money over you than it is just not worth it to have that person in your life. I do understand some people we cant just delete and throw in recycle bin, but we can step away from them. Better to be with less people but those who dont care and showoff. 

I am very thankful to those few friends, who not only stand by me but are there for all ups and downs in my life. 

Have a wonderful day. :)

Smile Can take you a Long Way..

Today when I went for grocery shopping somehow in one aisle there were too many people with trolleys and I stopped for four of them from which one was staff member bringing stock. But out of those four people only one lady appreciated that I gave them away and said thank you to me. Rest of the three had a blank face, not even a single smile. For the rest of the day I couldn't stop thinking that what has overcome our mind that we are so stressed through out the whole day that we don't even have time to relax? And more over have we got no ethics or respect for others?

When I came to Melbourne 10 years ago it used to be the most friendly place, but things have slowly slowly changed. I did spend 2 years in Sydney where I realized that Sydney is not as friendly as Melbourne, but are we becoming like that as well? Does it really takes too much of our precious time to give a smile to someone? I am someone who usually have a smily face, and like to look at others with a bright face, but I don't get a smile back always. May be what I do is not normal for other people, I might be a freak who smiles without any reason. But I like to be happy and that's what has helped me so far even in my bad times, through my separation/divorce and every up and down.


A smile can take you a long way and that has definitely worked in my life. Giving a smile to someone is like giving a helping hand to someone without even realizing, I remember when I was a newbie here in Australia and was badly struggling with home sickness, a complete stranger gave me that very well needed dose of Smile, while I was sitting with a sad face in tram. I cant thank enough that stranger as with one smile he made me realize that life will never be great, something will always be missed. You can never fulfill all of your dreams, sometimes your priorities change and sometimes with time your dream will change, but as long as you learn to live in the moment nothing can take you down.


I might not have a show off apartment or car like other people, but I am content and happy. I have something which you cant buy with money, a freedom, a beautiful daughter and everyday to look forward to. I have seen many struggling in getting that bigger house or that bigger car and missing out on the simple things and enjoying it with family and close friends.


Lets start thanking for little things in life, appreciate that you wokeup this morning and you have food on the table and roof on top. These might be very normal things for you but for  many these basic necessities are the top priorities.


Last but not the least, My Motto.. A Smile can take you a Long Way.. :)


Thank you for reading, Have a wonderful smiling day..

Being a Super Mum aka Being a 100% Parent

When we become parents, we tend to have this expectation from ourself to give the best and 100% to our kids. And when time pass we do try to make it happen for our kids, but like me there are many parents who tend to think every night that today would have been abit more better if a certain incident wouldn't have occurred. From certain incident I mean things like a tantrum where child was bit over tired, etc. If you are one of those parents who go into guilt when something goes wrong or when you were alittle harsh on your little one where you could have been super calmed according to the various articles and parenting tips, I know what you feel, I have been there.

Even though all the parenting tips and articles are a huge help when your moral is low and you need some positive feedback plus just to know there are more parents like you who go through such things, they are not always written by a parent. Every child is different and so does every parent. Doesn't mean that any parent want abit less for their child but still its different when you hear it from a parent or someone who have done loads of study on that topic. As theory wise it makes sense and feels doable, but when you are a parent in that particular situation than the theory makes no sense.

Just like today we had an awesome day, we went to park and than to my little one's friends house for a play date, but by the time I realized she was too tired it was too late. As she was abit restless and crying due to little things, and me trying to make her understand that she is tired and we have to go home to rest didn't make any sense to my DD. According to kids its impossible for them to get tired, and no way they want to miss out on all the play and excitement by having a nap. Our so called good day came to an end with she crying over little things and me trying to drag her to the car so we could get home and she could have alittle rest. We were home in 5 minutes and in next 5 minutes she was already asleep, I must mention when we got home she still wanted to play more with Lego, but I told her off in a firm voice and asked her to lay down in bed. With my denial she got big fat tears in her eyes, which like always broke my heart again but I knew the best thing was to be firm and make her rest and hopefully she will fall asleep. Before I knew she was asleep.

Today was suppose to be a great day according to my expectation, but it wasn't as my DD ended up crying and I feel like a failure, but now when she is asleep all I can think of is that the most important thing is that even though she did got over tired and had a cry, but I learned something from today and may be I will be able to recognize her tiredness much better next time. But above all I did it again, I expected again that I can be a 100% wonderful parent. Where as the truth is if you get a day even 50% great being a parent, then that is beyond any calculation. Less you expect, more you will give. All we need to remind ourself is that they are little and there will be few cries during the day, but all that matters is that how many smiles you had.

Everyday is a new adventure with your little one, no one said it will be a plain road all the times, there will be few bumps here and there, but all that matters it that the adventure you had will give you and your little one great memories for life long. So stop trying to be a super mum and just get along, make few mistakes and then learn from them. Remember when you fall and stand up that will teach your little one that its ok to fall sometimes, but also give them courage to stand up tall again. Be a mentor to your kids, practice what you preach and always remember you are world to your little one.

This one for my little gorgeous DD, whom I love to Moon and back.. <3

Thanks for reading.

:)

My Independence Day aka The day i left an Abusive Relation

Today 4 years ago I left the most disturbing and controlling relation, I could never forget today's date and celebrate it as my Independence Day. I am free and happy now but that wasn't the case 4 years ago. I thought I would be stuck with him forever but luckily I flew away and that was the best decision I ever made. Now when I look at my little one I feel more proud of myself for leaving that abusive relationship. If my daughter would have been witnessed all the drama going on in my life due to a bad partner, she would have thought it is normal for a guy to treat a woman like this. But that's not the case now, and I am happy about that. I am single and a mother to a fabulous girl and my life couldn't be better. I am happy in my little family and that's the way it should be.

 

I remember when I was in that relation I use to avoid looking at myself in mirror, it used to make me more sad and depressed about my life with him. It was like walking on egg shells, anything could happen anytime, he could loose it anytime and start screaming and blaming me. Been with him was the biggest mistake of my life but I got something amazing out of it that is my daughter. Before the marriage he was a nice normal guy or may be I missed the signs that he was insane. Once we were married I saw change in his behavior towards all the women in his life which includes me, his mother and sisters. But as it was all very new to me and him, I decided to give it all abit more time and wait for everything to settle down, but what I have learned is that they never change. Can I change my behavior? NO. So how did I even think he can be something better? I know it was that girl inside me who wanted my marriage to work out and was giving him more and more chances to fix the things.

 

Unfortunately we are surrounded by people who judge us by status Single - Married - Divorced. A majority of people think that girls like me who fall in Divorced category are ready to go out with anyone and are the one to be blamed for the whole relationship fall down. I don't even have to go far to friends, in my own family I got many people who gave me that look when I left him. I must say it did broke my heart but it didn't made me change my mind, it just made me look more clearer that those people who are not happy with my decision are actually the one with this cheap mentality that a women is below men, and that's not how I have been raised. My father is a very loving and caring father and husband, it doesn't mean they never had fights or there were never problems, but they went through all the problems together and still there for each other. It gives me great satisfaction that I had a great picture in my heart about the perfect man and that made me move on from that relation.

 

Today I want to thank all the lovely people who cared about me and stood beside me through that hard time, they are a hand few and better than having heaps of Frenemies. One angel like cousin and his wife, couple of friends + my loving family stood beside me when I took the decision. That's all what it takes few close friends/relatives to make you feel more confident and think clearer. Thank you to all those who supported me and I can never express the love and respect I have for you in my heart. Plus even more thankful to those who didn't care and were gossiping about me being a bad wife, as you all give me that push to go on and do more and prove you wrong. Now I am here happy and content. I want to share my story so any women out there suffering what I suffered before can read it and if its even 1% helpful to them I will be very happy.

 

Ps feel free to share your story or any support you need. xx

 

Thank you for reading.

 

Keep Smiling :)

Before you get a Tattoo

Getting a tattoo has been on my bucket list for approximately 8-9 years. I never actually knew what I want or where I want so I didn't actually went for it, but when I become mum I knew I wanted my little one's name. So this year finally I got it and I must say I am loving it. Even though it is my first tattoo and still in process of healing, I am already planning what I want as my next tattoo. Before I went and got it done I did some online research about all the cons and pros of getting a tattoo. So here I am preparing a one page for all the little bits and pieces you would like to know before you get one.

 

1. Yes it does hurt:- It does depend upon individual and their body, as some are very sensitive to pain and others are not. Me being a female and scared of needles, did got a bit scared when I saw the needle and the gun. It was similar to a burn hurt but I survived, I must say I can never see needles and still went through a tattoo and is now happy with it. I choose not to look at it when it was in process.

 

2. Get something Small:- Give yourself enough time to think about what you want as your first tattoo and if possible think of something smaller. Not only it will give you time about if you want one or no, but also give you an idea about how much pain can you tolerate. Ps you can always go for a bigger one if you are happy with your first one. Yayy.. :)

 

3. Find a Professional Tattoo Artist:- You want a tattoo and have decided what you want, now time is to spend some quality time finding a professional artist. If you need help then ask your friends who got few tattoos already, yes it does help I asked one of my friends who got tattoos and she helped me go to one of the professional ones, he did charged a bit more but was very kind, generous, understanding and a wonderful artist. He made me feel comfortable and kept me occupied in talking to distract me while the procedure.

 

4. Make an Appointment:- So you have thought enough and decided what you want plus also know which artist you want it from, the next step would be to make an appointment with the artist. Not only you will save yourself time waiting in the parlor but also be more relaxed if you go on a fixed time and get served immediately. All is set now, go for it.

 

5. Buy aftercare ointment in advance:- Aftercare is must for a tattoo, as some people also bleed during getting one. I was lucky that my tattoo didn't bleed but I did had swollen skin and was sore for like 2-3 days. I had to rush from the tattoo parlor to chemist to get Bepanthen (antiseptic cream) ointment which is must to put on the tattoo for several weeks after getting the tattoo. It not only helps with the healing but also keep it safe from getting infected. I would suggest to have it before hand as if you get hurt from tattoo and want to go home straight away after getting your tattoo then you can.

6. Read the aftercare sheet:- Your artist will give you an aftercare sheet to keep, I would suggest while you are getting your tattoo done to read it and ask as many questions you have regarding the tattoo and its day to day care.

7. Don't scratch your tattoo:- Donot scratch it, no matter how much itchy it is, use the ointment and it will help it getting better. Itching is the worst thing you can do to infected your tattoo. Remember your skin was burned and got injected with color in it, your skin is not used to this so it is going to itch when your tattoo is in process of healing. If itching is out of control contact your artist asap or see a doctor.

8. Ignore other people Judgment:- One thing that will happen to you if you got a tattoo at a visible place is that other people will give you good or bad feedback depending upon their liking. Remember one thing, you got this tattoo because you like it and you wanted it, don't let other people mess your head if they don't like it than what? you didn't asked them to have it. Its yours and you love it, enjoy your first tattoo.

Enjoy Your first tattoo, I am sure just like me you will start planning what you want your second tattoo to be. Its an addiction, love it. Don't forget to share some comments and photos of your tattoos..

Have a wonderful day..

Keep Smiling.. xx
 

Jamberry Nail Wrap Review

In a busy mum's life it is almost impossible to do things like going to a spa or getting a manicure or pedicure. From many year we have been hearing about nail stickers which reduces time and effort to go to a nail shop plus are easily available online. I have heard a lot about Jamberry Nail wraps and was looking forward to try some out. So I contacted one of their consultant for some samples. I got the samples in couple of days in post and was very eagerly waiting for my little one to sleep so I can have a nail makeover.

 

 

I got the pack with all the things in the above picture plus the nail wrap. Now I will start explaining everything with steps:-

 

1. Use Moisturizing hand cream to moisture your hands so they are nicely moisturized.

 

2. Use Nail Prep wipe to wipe your nails so that they are nice and clean.

 

3. Use the nail wrap sheet to match it to your nails (finger or toe).

 

4. It tells you to use some sort of heat to warm the wrap before putting it on nails, I used my hair dryer and it worked fine. So use the dryer on the minimum heat to warm the wrap and then press it on your nail.

 

5. The rubber cuticle pusher is a must to use after putting the wrap on the nail to make it smooth and stick properly.

 

6. If you are someone like me with small nails then all you need to do is cut the left over extra nail wrap with scissors and you can use the nail filer to make the it trim properly, but make sure you file the extra bit in a downward motion.

 

7. Use the dryer after you put the nail wrap to your nails, it helps with them to stick properly and stay longer.

 

This is all you need for this quick nail makeover. Took me around 5 minutes to do all.

Only thing I struggled with is my right hand, it was very easy to do on left hand, as I am a right hand user. Even though it was my first time experimenting these wraps, I like the after result and expecting that next time will be more easier to do on right hand.

 

And here is the final result (Would like to mention I donot have model like hands, but doing a review from one mum to other mums). As every mum is looking for time saving tip and this could be one of the tip for many mums, to save a trip to nail saloon on those super busy days.

 

 

 I am happy with the result, I received Masala Chai Sample. I have done dishes, clothes and other day to day chores of a mum and even after 4 days they are still the same.

 

Pros:- Easy to apply, quick delivery, long lasting, huge variety, but three wrap sheets get one free

Cons:- Hard to do on the alternate hand if you have no help(might get better by practice), abit overpriced ($22 individual wrap sheet price which includes hands and toes, but do give one sheet free if you buy three)

Overall, I wouldn't mind using a wrap every now or then but will wait for specials (as I believe like every company Jamberry must have special price reductions sometimes during the year). And will probably apply them when I have a friend over to help me with my right hand application.

As I mentioned before the sample were provided by Jamberry consultant and anyone of you looking forward to enjoy a nail makeover then here is the website link for Australia

https://donashelly.jamberry.com/au/en/



Jamberry is available in NewZealand, Canada, UK, Australia and Canada. Have a look through the website for any more information.

Thank you for reading my Jamberry Review.  Don't forget to share your review in comments.

Have a wonderful day and keep smiling. xx


 

Violence against Women, Still a Long way to go...

We entered 2016 two months ago, its a high technology time where time is money and technology help us save our time. Even though in this high tech time we lack in some social issues, specially with women. We have accomplished solutions to many social problems but still one aspect that needs more awareness is Abuse against Women. I have been a Domestic Violence victim before, so know how it feels like to be in trap and scared. Luckily I escaped and now I am away from all the traps and that suffocation relation. But last week something happened which made me realize that even though we have raised a lot of awareness about DV, but still abuse is something that can happen to any women anywhere, anytime. It can happen even at a very crowded place like it happened to me with a total stranger and only I stood for myself and my daughter, not even a single person came and helped. I know what you must be thinking, that's what I think as well when I see all those videos done by people showing how one person is pretending to be abused and public comes and help.

Trust me that happened to me and not even a single person from public came to help and tell the rude person off who was verbally abusing me because I am a woman. Yes that was a Sexism abuse, and what made that guy more mad was that I told him to stop it. Let me take you through the whole incident.

 

Date:- 26/2/2016

Time:- 11 am (approximately)

Place:- GESAC

We were having some water play in the play area in Gesac, all of the sudden this Asian guy came and screamed at my daughter in a very rude and high voice because apparently some water got splashed at his son, which was not even intentional and I must mention his Son was fine, happy and enjoying. As my daughter was only a second away from me I quickly went to her and told that guy to not to talk to my daughter like that. His reply was straight away that what do I know as I am a F***** B**** as I am a Woman. To tell you the truth I was shocked for a minute as I had my child with my and so did he and still he was swearing in public place with lots of families.

I told him to mind his language, but he was talking like if he has learned only swearing in his school days. While telling him off I quickly raised my hand for the nearby staff so they can come and do something about this rude and racist guy. I could see so much hate on that Asian guy's face which I am sure was due to the fact that I am an Indian, Woman and on top I told him off for his rude behavior. The staff who came was a teenage boy and he called the Duty Manager. Even in front of the Staff he was still abusing me and calling me an idiot, which clearly showed he had no ethics or what so ever etiquettes. I felt pity on his son and could see what kind of future he will give to his son. When he saw the Duty manager he went back to water with his son, away from us asif he knew no one will do anything about it, and that's exactly what happened.

I complained to the Duty Manager about this incident, and the reply I got was that he will keep an eye on him. I was even more shocked at the way Gesac reacted on this incident was like nothing happened. Still me being upset as I didn't had in my plan for that day to be abused, screamed and sweared at, I went to the reception to complaint to someone in management. When I told the guy on the reception the whole thing he went inside and came back in not even a minute and told me that someone is going to have a look at it and will resolve it, and I told him I want them to take action and let me know the result or I will call Police. All this time that Asian guy is still in water and having fun and we left after all that drama.

Around 12.30pm I got a call from the guy from the reception and he told me that they went to the Asian guy and told him that they had a chat with Asian guy and he wont do it again. Yes this was there solution, Yes even with a big swimming center which is through council and had atleast 100 people there at the time of this incident that's who they deal with abuse against women.

I am not satisfied with their problem solving agenda. I had to run to different people to tell them the same story again and again and still all they did was nothing. He should have been spoken to right away when I reported abuse, as even one of the staff member was there when this all happened. But unfortunately, there is no such rules in place in Gesac, they didn't even asked the guy to leave, which in many companies is done.

After getting home I contacted some Women Help lines and legal lines but sadly there is nothing we can do if we suffer through such situation. So basically if you abused in public that best you can do it defend yourself and tell the abuser off, like what I did in my situation.

 

One more thing which can be done is call Police, yes in order to find a solution to this solution I called police and told them what happened and the reply I got was that I can give a written complaint to Gesac that I feel the situation was not dealt properly or next time if something like this happens than instead of wasting my time to call staff at Gesac (who did nothing), call Police.

 

I hope this wont happen again, but also abit relieved that what my daughter learned that day is to not accept abuse in anyway. She learned to raise hand against such incidents and not to be afraid of rude people. I am a Muma bear, I will always protect her and will support her.

 

Always stand for abuse against you or anyone, I felt alittle hearbreak that even in a big place like Gesac no one stood by me that day, which I will definitely do if someone goes through the same thing. Remember it could happen to anyone anywhere, so help others and stand by them if you see someone is experiencing abuse.

 

This is all based on True Incident.

 

Thank you for reading. :)

Hair Care Tips for Mums

In a running life of a mum there is minimal time left to take care of yourself. And when you are a Single mother, its seems like impossible to have that personal time you want for yourself. As not only you are running around like a machine whole day but when kids are asleep and you have some time, then either its too late to go out or there is no one to keep an eye on sleeping kid for a little bit, when you can run out and quickly get your hair done from a next door hair saloon. I know, I have been there and even till now I struggle with my hair. I have come out with some easy  tips for mums to make sure your hair care is up to date.

Hair Wash:-  Never wash your hair more then 2 times a week. Our scalp produces natural oil which is the natural way of our body to moisturize our hair. By washing them everyday we loose that natural oil, and instead of doing good we do harm to our hair. If your hair are naturally oily, try using oily hair shampoo as they take control of extra oil without losing the moisture.

Hair Cut:- Get a hair cut every 3 months. If you are growing hair and want them long, then this is the best tip to help them grow fast. Everyday our hair go through heat, dust and UV, this all makes hair go dry/ frizzy at the ends and also end up with split ends. By getting it trim or cut we help the hair to get rid of that unhealthy part and grow even longer.

Shampoo/Conditioner:- If you don't want to spend too much time in fixing your hair and still have a good hair day then invest in some good shampoo and conditioner. Trust me it will make your life much easier. Don't have to spend too much as there are many decent products which are economical to buy and does great care of hair. Like Redken, Pantene, etc. Never leave the shower without applying conditioner to your hair. Conditioner is like moisturizer for hair, just like our skin our hair also needs conditioning as well.

Comb:- Never skip combing your hair, as not only you will end up messy looking hair but also make more damage to them. Combing your hair daily will keep your hair untangled, more manageable and also increase the blood supply of scalp. As when we comb our hair then that motion helps our hair and scalp to have a good massage and as a result our hair gets healthier and longer.

Coconut Oil:- Oiling your hair is one of the traditional method to restore hair growth as well as keep them hydrated. It only takes few minutes and effect are long lasting. Get any brand coconut oil and warm it up in microwave (20 seconds) and massage on hair roots and scalp. Leave it overnight if you can or can just keep it for 15 minutes before washing your hair. You will be surprised with the result and your hair will thank you for that.

Last but not least if you use any hot products in your hair like straightener or curler, then keep their usage minimal or use a proper spray or cream for heat protection before you use it. These are some day to day things which you can do to make sure your hair care is also completed with house chores.

We all have bad hair day and on such days just do a ponytail, put a big smile on your face and kiss your little ones. I can assure you by the time you will kiss your little ones you will forget all about bad hair day and it will brighten up your day.

Mum power... :)

Have a good day..xx

Exercise Routine for Mums

 

 

Yes I know what you all are thinking..

That's exactly how I used to feel as well. I must mention I was never a gym lover or had a super model body. But being overweight started when I fell pregnant, like every mum or should I say some mums, as lately I have seen many fitness lover mums who does abs exercises in pregnancy. Even though I admire them I know I could never be one of them, until and unless someone actually starts paying me for exercising. Lol As if.. haha

Jokes aside. I have started something from almost a month and it has helped me 2 kilos. Yes 2 kilos and its Down Down Down. yayy..

I wanted to share few tips with all the mums who find it its impossible to workout with kids and I know it is. So here is my non-workout routine which not only will help you cherish the time spend with your little one but also make you shed weight.

Step 1:-  Figure out what is your favorite time of the day, means when would you think you would     like to go out for a walk or a little bike ride or any activity that you like. Once you decide on a time, make sure you fed the little one half an hour before that time and you two are all set to go out.

Step 2:- If your little one is still in pram then get the pram ready, if your little one is toddler or big than you can pick the activity that they like. It could be a bike, scooter, football, etc anything.

Step 3:- Forget about everything else. Think of this half an hour or an hour (depending upon what you decide), as just your exclusive time with your bub.

 

Step 4:- Start walking, jogging, running, bike, football, etc whatever you choose to do with your exclusive time. Spend that time giggling and running around with your bub.

Once you start doing it for a week then increase the time and start adding up some exercises in it. But the best and important thing to do first is to fix a time of the day when you would like to so this all.
I am sure many of you have thought about this all and most would have been already doing this once a week or so.

Why not make it a routine?

Not only your gorgeous bub will love that mum who jumps around like a frog, you will also love those extra laughs and amazing time of the day.

I will add some exercises as well in my next blog which I started doing after I did this play routine with my little one for 10 days.

Last but not the least, this play time has to be outdoor, unless its bad weather (You mums are the best judge).

Hope you enjoyed it.

Lots love.. xx