Marriage Money Life Friendship

Once upon a time marriage was an agreement between two people written with love and taken oath in front of God to celebrate that they will live together for rest of their life. With the time passing by and this eager of every human being to be successful and have more in life has changed the value of marriage. Since childhood I had this image in my heart that two people meet fall in love and get to live together and we call it marriage. But when it came to my marriage I was taking in lots of new information like marriage is more like an agreement to make sure you are secured in each and every way (financially/security) for rest of the life, in marriage a guy is always right (according to my x-inlaws, that's why they are X)

Even though my marriage didn't last long but it does gave me lots of information about living with a Guy, which is nothing like how i imagined it to be, plus money matters. Yes, it does. I know many wouldn't like my view on this particular thought, but that is what I have experienced. I am not just talking about my relation, but also including many different couples whom I have closely noticed. Lets talk about this deeply.

First I would like to talk about what goes through the guys mind, if the girl is educated good, but if girl is educated plus from a good background (financially) then its a Yes ofcourse. I have seen guys who used to be a lover to every second girl, to change into a homely guy just after marriage. Yes there are some rare cases where people change, but when person change due to love than you can see the difference in their behavior for everyone not just one person, as person who change inside will also change outside. I just cant believe that a person can be only respectful to one and not for rest of the world. What is different if a girl parents has money? she just becomes more valuable? Some of these married guys just make me feel sorry for the girl, as all they talk about is money, Has money taken over Love? All that matters is Materialistic life? 

Moreover they only want to be involved with people with contacts and money, they got all the time for those people, but if someone who unfortunately no longer has anything to offer them, then they are too busy. I didnt learned my lesson in a day,  it took me awhile to see the difference. Means if i had money and contacts than they would come to me as well, but I am glad that I dont and so should all of you if you have ever felt like that. If someone choose  money over you than it is just not worth it to have that person in your life. I do understand some people we cant just delete and throw in recycle bin, but we can step away from them. Better to be with less people but those who dont care and showoff. 

I am very thankful to those few friends, who not only stand by me but are there for all ups and downs in my life. 

Have a wonderful day. :)

First Ballet Performance

I have always been a dance and music lover, but never had a chance to do something about it professionally. Back in India its not a big thing and most parents pay attention on kids education more than extra curricular activities. My parents did the same, they gave me great education but never gave me a chance to grow my hobbies, or should I say I was also not serious enough to choose and make decisions in such areas. Just like any parent, once I became mum all my dreams and wishes came upon my little girl. Just like me she also enjoys music and dancing, plus ever since she started walking she was on her toes most of the times. Starting of last year I put her in dance classes to help her grow her hobby as a profession. All I can do from my side is help her and give her different ways to grow, rest would be her decision to make once she gets bigger.

 

I enjoyed going with her to ballet every week. Starting days were hard, as every time when we went to the class instead of dancing she used to jump and run around in the big massive room. But as the time passed, she got into the rhythm of listening to the teacher, I cant say 100% but she got much better. She is a little independent girl, she has her own way and I don't want to push her for anything. The best thing is that she enjoys going to dance class and has a good time there with her friends. As four terms passed, than it was the time for the school's dance concert. I still remember myself giggling with my friends talking about what will my little one do on stage? is she even going to move? or she is going to ran behind the stage?

 

All my fears came to an end when we went for the last rehearsal for the concert, I stayed back stage and she went with her group to practice on the stage. I looked at her performing behind the curtains so that she couldn't see me, as she always used to come out of her 30 minutes class twice to give me kiss and cuddle. Me being a mum who wants her child to learn didn't like her coming out twice but also loved her loving gesture every single time. She performed quite well as compare to what I was expecting and more than that she enjoyed and was happy in whole act.

 

Finally the concert day came, I had invited few family and friends, but unfortunately no one could make it. I was filled with emotions. I dressed her up and before leaving her back stage I gave her a big kiss and told her to just have fun. She was busy with other kids coloring and playing with toys. I went in hall and sat on my seat hoping to see a familiar face next to me, but I didn't knew anyone both sides. But as soon as the performances started I had all my eyes on the big stage and was going though funny feelings inside my heart.

My little one was in the 3rd performance, I only had to wait for 10 minutes to see her dance act. All the kids came to stage holding each others hands with two big girls who were dancing with them to help them remember their steps. I was so happy that I had a big smile on my face, I am sure if a toothpaste company would have seen me that time, they would have surely hired me for their advertisements. In like 10 seconds I couldn't see clearly as my vision got blurry and the reason was I couldn't control my tears. There I was siting among 200-300 people watching little girls dancing on Lollipop song and I was smiling with tears doing a cleansing on my face. I was happy very happy. I couldn't be more proud, she didn't ran anywhere, she did her dancing the way it was suppose to be by a 3 year old. Moreover, she also got a medal at the end.

 

We mothers are so lucky that we get blessed with these little ones who starts walking with holding our finger and than goes out in this big world and makes us proud. Life cant be better.

 

So today when you kiss your little one goodnight, stay with them for a little longer, as soon they will be big and we will miss these little little moments.

 

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Friendship

I couldn't stop thinking about those people or should i call them friends, who are no longer in my life. The reason behind me talking about this topic is that one of my friend was complaining about her friend who doesn’t treat her right. First of all, my dear readers, if someone is not treating you right then just take a break with them there itself. It will allow you to give some time to yourself to figure out what's happening to your friendship. And, it will allow sometime for your friend to figure out if they have been mistreating you in someway and if they still want to be friends with you then they will work on it.

Friendship, as we all know is one of the most wonderful relations we have in our life. Starting from being toddlers to old age, we have friends to help us go through all ups and downs in life. If we are lucky, we will have that one friend throughout our childhood to old age. Childhood friends are like siblings, you can expect them to help you in each way and still have a big argument without worrying about losing the friend. Then come those friends which we make out of choice, like in our teenage, we meet many different types of people. We make some friends due to similarities, and with some we just end up becoming friends without any reason. All friendships are great, as they provide warmth, love, care and security.

I have many friends, but i must say i have only a few who are very close to my heart. There was a time in my life when i had heaps of friends, or i thought they were my friends. But, life's reality made me understand the difference between a friend or colleague or acquaintance. First reality check was when i moved interstate and left my job, it was like 8 out of 10 people were out of my life as they no longer required me, or should i say in a better way, that they no longer required my service at work. I must accept i didn't realize it straightaway, as i was still trying to be in touch and update everyone. But within a few months  I understood those were not my friends, those were just my colleagues who were pretending to be friends as that allows them to ask me for favors. I must admit  I felt sad, but better late than never, so I let them go.

Acquaintance could mean different things to different people according to their understanding, according to me it means those people who are known to you and are good to hangout with but once in a while. I myself became a victim of it, as i was being acquaintance to someone. One of the girls whom I knew would see me once in awhile, mostly when she would have no one to go to or talk to I guess, but will not be available when I want to do something or catch-up. It took me some time to understand that she had me in her "once in a while" call list. I didn't end friendship with her but instead put her in my "once in a while" list. And once I understood the clear meaning of these type of people now i must say I have heaps in "once in a while" list.

I must mention in my life I have also had some friends who were very nice and good friends, but after few years things changed, and instead of friendship there was anger. Till date I can't understand how it all changed but when I look back I try to only think of good moments. I remember when things changed in between us. In my effort to save our friendship I tried alot to fix things and even apologized to her so that we can over come the bad time. But it just wasn't enough for her. Its been few years to this incident, still when I think of her i still cant understand what went wrong there, as there wasn't any big reason or argument but after few attempts I stopped. I just couldn't push myself to do any more for her, not because i didn't wanted to, but because it just wasn't worth it. Friendship also requires forgiveness.

Always cherish your friendship, remember, if they are not treating you the right way, then let them go. Trust your friends but also have self respect. If they love you and want to continue the friendship then they will take the effort as well. In a friendship if you think you are always explaining yourself then it's better to finish it, as it means you two have no understanding. Friends, without whom i cannot imagine my life. We all need friends, they make us laugh and cry at the same time, sometimes due to a terrible joke or sometimes by just being a friend. Thanks to all the wonderful people who were always around me and helped me in life and made me smile. More than that, thanks to those who left me, and made me cry, since if it wasn't up-to these people I would have never have understood the real meaning of friendship and who my true friends are.


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Day 3 as a Blogger Mum

Last night I started to think about all the bucket list which i made couple of years ago. That list was suppose to have 100 things in it to do before i die, but somehow i only end up writing 56, I have done few of them but still along way to go. I put the chart up behind the door just to remind myself to at least try to do something new everyday. Even if i don't fully succeed at least i should try my best. Reading that list did give me a better hope and expectation from myself, which this morning was still with me. I am all up and got the new thing to do today. Remembering my own childhood rain memory with my mum and my siblings. I am all set to make a memory for my DD. A little rain not too much as don't want to get her sick as well.

That's another motherhood day to day worry, to at least try not to get our little one sick. We are up and its still dark outside. Weather forecast shows it will be a raining and cold day here in Melbourne. Everyone knows in Melbourne you can see all different seasons in one day. So be prepared. My little one is watching Inside Out. I love this movie, even when it is for kids still it helped me as well to understand emotions which we as adults tend to ignore sometimes as we think we are adult enough to cope with everything. I wish it was, the easy day for me is when its just me and my little one. This is the stage of life in parenthood when only friends who are parent can understand you better. I have lost many friends just because of my commitment as a mother and we having different preferences of enjoyment. We mothers choose places which are kid friendly and according to the timing of the day. Depending upon if our little one has had an afternoon nap or no. Because trust me only mums can understand what it is to be with a cranky kid who missed afternoon nap or is just too tired to sit nicely in a cafe.

All parents know and learn by there own experience. My little one is an active kid always eager to learn, so i don't know how it is to be with a kid who is bit calmer and sits on one place, as mine like to jump around and always doing gymnastics in my lounge. But when i look around kids sitting with the ipads and not even saying Hi to the person next, than i fall in love with my little one a bit more. She keeps me occupied and the sweetest thing is that she will always greet the person next to us in a lift or shopping. In the last few years i have changed from being over friendly to control myself to the place where i interact but depending upon the person. luckily i am in Melbourne where people are friendly and mostly you will get a smile back for a smile. But there is always two faces of a picture.

Funny thing is when i did the InsideOut character test for me i was given the character of BingBong. There are few people like me around. i don't know if that is truth, but i was happy as i liked that character in movie. And i am happy that my little one finally moved from Frozen to InsideOut. Means i can do a new theme party for her next birthday.

I read a very interesting article talking about how for few people it is shame to be divorced. I am so glad to be a part of the family where everyone accepted my decision and been so supportive. I did lost few relatives and friends with my divorce as they had a mentality about woman only being puppet of man. I must say they never said anything on my face but when someone goes through my situation these kind of people show their true color. And trust me that was best thing for me as i no longer have such fake people in my life anymore. Always think when someone you leave or are gone, it's for your good. 

So,
Today's job search result:-  No Job applied.
Highlight of the day:- My bucket list
Feeling :- Great
Expecting:- To do something new everyday.
Hope:- To write a blog everyday.

Thank you for reading it.